As I prepare to move (yeah, again), I’m feeling a lot of anxiety. Plus just the regular, everyday stresses of teaching, running a business, and having a life.
I’ve been working through “A Course in Miracles”. The text is full of so much beauty and truth. The workbook exercises are simple, yet challenging. This book, as well as Michael Singers’s “The Untethered Soul”, have been incredibly enlightening and inspiring for me in the past few months. , I’d like to share these ideas from “A Course in Miracles” to help you survive your stressful, anxiety-filled times.
“When you have become willing to hide nothing, you will not only be willing to enter into communion but will also understand peace and joy.”
When I read this, it struck me that much of our anxiety comes from fear that our authentic self is not “_____” enough. Good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, etc. And we feel the need to cover up our perceived lack. This closing off of ourselves keeps us from entering into deep relationships with other and from experiencing peace in ourselves. Start to expose the real you, and feel the release!
“You can never control the effects of fear yourself, because you made fear, and you believe in what you made.”
One of the premises of “A Course in Miracles” is that fear is our own creation, from our egos. It is simply a false state of being. You believe the fear, because it is your own invention. And much like Dr. Frankenstein’s Monster, it cannot be controlled.
“When you are sad, know this need not be. Depression comes from a sense of being deprived of something you want and do not have.”
Now, this is not talking about clinical depression. Mental illness is a real thing and should be treated as a medical issue. Ok, with that disclaimer-
If you are truly content, you cannot be depressed. This was an amazing change of mindset for me. I allow myself to be discouraged and saddened by WANTING. It is, of course, ok to want things if that want pushes you to make changes, work harder, take steps to your goals, etc. It is not ok to want things at the expense of gratitude. We must learn to be thankful and grateful for what we have and where we are, and that gratitude will protect us.
“Guilt is a sure sign that your thinking is unnatural.”
Oh, boy. This was another big one for me. Guilt is a big motivator in my life. And when I read the above sentence, it was like a lightening bolt.
I often summarize “The Untethered Soul” for those who haven’t read it as “Stress comes from two places- feeling guilty about the past and worrying about the future. And neither of those things are something we can control! We have only the present to live and work in.”
So if you are suffering feelings of guilt, you need to learn how to leave those in the past. That is no longer a moment you can control. Concentrate your thoughts, energy, life on the present!
I hope you found a bit of wisdom here! And if you haven’t read the books I mentioned, I really can’t recommend them enough!