How does an Intimacy Director Help Actors?

Earlier in September, I had a post about How an Intimacy Coordinator Helps Actors. And really, it’s basically the same for an Intimacy Director working in theatre, instead of in film. You can check that out here, or the previous post, What Does an Intimacy Director Do? for more.

There are a couple of differences:

  • An Intimacy Director will review performance reports for anything that has gone off or any needs the productions have. I’ve had a scene need to be looked at again, because a costume piece had changed. If I hadn’t read the report, I wouldn’t have know about the change, and asked how it affected the intimacy.

  • An Intimacy Director will create separate choreography for understudies that fit their boundaries. An Intimacy Director will also create a “Plan B” or “Health Option” for all contact-kisses that removes soft tissue contact, in case an actor isn’t feeling well. Whether it’s a cold, a cold sore, or COVID, folks shouldn’t being kissing while not feeling well. We’ll provide excellent choreographic options that keep everyone safe, and the story-intact.

  • Since many Intimacy Directors are local to the theatre company where they are working, an Intimacy Director will help promote your show! More butts in seats are better for all of us!

What does an Intimacy Director do?

In a previous post, I broke down what my work looks like as an Intimacy Coordinator in Miami. Now, let’s look at what my job as an Intimacy Director at a theatre entails. Or see the whole process for all roles over on this page.

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Silver Palm Award

I am so honored to share that I have been awarded a Silver Palm for Outstanding Intimacy Direction in the 2021-22 season for :

Lungs (New City Players)

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How much does an Intimacy Director / Intimacy Coordinator make?

A few guidelines you can keep in mind as you budget for your theatrical season or film production:

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What is a Boundary?

What is a Boundary?

“Boundaries” is a term that gets thrown around a lot in Intimacy work. But what, exactly, IS a boundary?

Check out my TikTok series on Boundaries!

A lot of times, we think about boundaries as “don’t touch my___!” And that’s valid! But, it’s also a VERY narrow definition. I like to think of Boundaries in 3 ways:

  • Content

  • Context

  • Physical

Content Boundaries

What are you performing? Are there content, themes, stories that you should not engage with, for your own well being? You may find certain things activating, or simply not be your favorite kind of story to tell. If you are working towards being anti-racist and equitable, you will have boundaries on representing characters who have been marginalized by the demographics you represent.

Context Boundaries

Where are you performing? And, who are you performing with? You may be fine being in a state of undress in a 3000 seat house, because the audience is far away from you, and not with undressing in a 100 seat house, where you and the audience can see each other’s pores! You may feel confident performing certain acts of simulated sex with a scene partner you’ve worked with before, but not be ready to do so with someone you just met.

Physical Boundaries

What is my body experiencing? I invite you to open up your idea of physical boundaries. Instead of just asking what you are willing to have done to your body, also ask:

What am I willing to have my body do?
What am I willing to do (with consent) to the bodies of others?

You may be up for all sorts of content, in all sorts of contexts, but never want your body to be suspended above the stage. You may feel confident in having your glutes slapped in the course of story-telling, but not want to perform that action on others.

If you found these questions helpful, head over to the Shop at MomentumStage.org and download the Boundaries Worksheet for FREE! Then you will have them at your fingertips the next time you go to an audition or take a call from your agent. Just use the code “TIKTOK” at checkout.

Intimacy Professional Office Hours

I’m holding two events for folks in South Florida Theatre and South Florida Film to be able to speak to an Intimacy Professional. This time is meant to discuss how an ID/IC can support a production, whether you are an actor, crew member, critic, or administrator.

Register over on the Events page for the one that you are interested in, or drop your question in the form, and I will answer it during our time together.

We are meeting virtually so folks from across the region can attend, and that folks who can’t attend can still get answers through the recording.

See you there!

Press Release for Borrowed, the Play, in Miami!

I’m honored to be a part of the team creating Borrowed, an immersive play in Miami, opening in late June. See my Events page for ticket info. Check out the Broadway World press release all about the play here.

April 2022 News Stories about Intimacy Direction and Intimacy Coordination

Bringing Consent to Ballet, One Intimacy Workshop at a Time. 13 April 2022. Laura Cappelle for the New York Times.

The Impact of Intimacy Direction on Educational Theatre. 14 April 2022. Kaila Roach for On Stage Blog.

Motif Writing in Intimacy Choreography

A year of work, and another year of waiting, and my first peer-reviewed journal article has been published! In it I share my experience using Laban/Bartenieff Movement Analysis (LBMA) for Meaning-Making and Show Maintenance in Intimacy Choreographer for theatre productions. You can read it online in the Journal of Movement Arts Literacy.

Huge thanks to:

The cast and creative team of Measure for Measure’s In the Heights

The cast and creative team of TheatreLab’s The Glass Piano

My IMS cohort and faculty educators

Teresa Heiland, the editor of JMAL

March Intimacy Direction / Intimacy Coordination Articles

Backstage Pass Interview with Boca Magazine!

I was thrilled to be interviewed this summer by Boca Magazine about my work on Theatre Lab’s To Fall In Love and Intimacy Direction in general.

The title cracks me up because I’m really the only one in Dade/Broward/Palm Beach doing this work! It’s easy to be premier that way! But huge shout out to my mentor Dan Granke in Tampa. Technically still South Florida, and they are much more gifted than I.

The piece appears in the February 2021 issue. Here’s a link to the online ezine!

Photo by Wide Eyed Studios.

Photo by Wide Eyed Studios.

September News Stories about Intimacy Direction, Intimacy Coordination

What Intimacy Direction can Bring to Dance. Dance Magazine. September 2020.

What Playwrights can Learn from Intimacy Directors. A conversation with Gaby Labotka for Howlround. September 1, 2020.

What It’s Like To Be A Black Intimacy Coordinator In The Era Of Consent And Political Resistance. An interview with Tenice Divya Johnson and Sasha Smith. Elle Magazine. September 8 2020.

Tea and Sex Session on Intimacy Direction

Back in July I got to be a guest on the Wilzig Erotic Art Museum’s Thursday afternoon Tea and Sex sessions, talking about intimacy direction!

Here Melissa and I discuss the “what it is”. This is just the first few minutes of an hour-long conversation and interactive session with participants.

Nicole Perry is a guest on the Wilzig Erotic Art Museum's Tea and Sex Thursday afternoon session with Melissa Blundell-Osorio discussing what is intimacy dir...

I talk. A lot. Sometimes people let me talk on their shows.

And this is one of those times!

Jimmy Chrismon, an intimacy direction colleague, hosts ThedTalks, a theatre education podcast. He interviewed me about intimacy direction and Momentum Stage. Check it out here: https://thedtalks.com/podcast/

I have a few more podcast appearances coming up. Stay tuned!

Creating a Pedagogy and Ethics of Teaching With(out) Touch

Momentum Stage has just launched a new course I wrote combining my training in intimacy choreography, the Laban/Bartenieff Movement System and my years as both an educator and creator of movement.

This is to offer teaching options for those who are either encouraged or mandated to not touch in teaching. This is not a class about touching student. It is a class to consider IF touch is necessary, HOW do we teach without it (or very little of it), and WHEN/IF it is necessary, to make very specific choices in our type of touch in order to be as effective as possible with that touch.

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What does Intimacy on Stage Look Like after Corona?

Well, that’s a really bold question, as we have no idea what just being on stage looks like right now!

But, in the past week I’ve had a couple of conversations about this, and I do have some thoughts.

  1. Even if we’re “back to normal”, there are going to be performers, directors, and administrators that are more wary of intimacy, especially if those intimate moments would cause a meeting of soft tissues like kissing. I am already in the habit of choreographing a “Plan B” for kisses that can be done in case of actor illness, and understudy stepping in, etc. A good intimacy director/choreographer should have been providing these all along, and they, the director, and the actors involved should all feel just as confident about the story-telling involved in those moments as they do with the kiss. See my earlier post about Plan Bs.

    It is possible that bringing on an Intimacy Director/Choreographer is part of a company’s safety plan. This was raised in a conversation hosted by Directors Lab West yesterday with Ann James of Intimacy Directors of Color and Carly D. Weckstein, an independent sex educator and Intimacy Director (check out the convo here). Bringing in an ID could be a way a company says to their community that they take the physical and mental health of their performers and production crew seriously, and are hiring people with specials skills in doing that.

    Both of these thoughts lead me to #2.

  2. Intimacy Directors/Choreographers are Movement Specialists. And movement is still going to be on stage, even if physical contact is not.

    Intimacy Directors/Choreographers are movement specialists (or at least they should be). They have been trained in movement for the stage. Sometimes this aspect gets lost in the more “news-worthy” part of the job- gaining consent, establishing boundaries, hopefully avoiding lawsuits for the company, etc. I came to this work after 10 years of choreographing. I have a Bachelor’s degree in dance. I have studied movement at an even deeper level by obtaining my Laban certification. When I train with IDI, IDC, or TIE, we are given feedback not just on our ability to put best practices in communication into use, but in our choreographic abilities. My job is make sure the story is told, and told well, and that the director and actors feel confident in the performance.

    I believe my in-depth knowledge of movement will make me more of an asset to confident story-telling on the stage, even if the actors must remain apart or not fully physically engaged in the intimacy.

I do believe my role will still be necessary when we get back in space together. For safety and for the sake of the story, I think it will be even more necessary! We’ll see if the industry agrees!

I’d love your thoughts- whether you are a performer, director, producer, or audience member- what would seeing this role in a playbill mean to you pre-Coronavirus? Would it mean the same, or something different after? Leave me a comment!

Movement Analysis of the Creature in The National Theatre's "Frankenstein"

The Making of a Monster

One cool thing to come out of this time of physical distancing is all of the recorded/broadcast theatre being made available. This is especially awesome for shows I would not typically have the opportunity to see, like ones in London! So last night, I watched both versions of the National Theatre’s much-talked about new Frankenstein, starring Benedict Cumberbatch (BC) and Johnny Lee Miller (JLM). These broadcast recordings are available on the National’s Youtube channel until May 7 and 8, depending on the version.

What’s so talked about in this play, you ask? Besides Sherlock on the stage, of course. Well, it’s that the 2 leading men would swap parts, one night playing The Creature, another night the creator. Handling 2 parts of this size, at the same time is pretty amazing, in and of itself. And as a story-telling device, the interchangeability of creature/creator is an interesting concept, especially when you remember that in Frankenstein, the word “monstrous” is used to refer to the Doctor, not his experiment. But, as a movement analyst, I’m going to talk about the specific movement choices made by the actors when they played The Creature, and what that brought to the production.

What is important to know about Laban/Bartenieff Movement Analysis is that this is an observational technique. That means that the observer (me) still has all their own preferences and interpretations about what they are observing. I have reasons for believing that my observations are correct, however, until I actually speak to the actors and their movement director about the choices made, I have no way of knowing if I’m “right”. This production did have a movement director, Toby Sedgwick, who is an incredible master of movement (A movement director is a position I don’t see a lot of theatres employ, and he is a great example of what having one can bring to a production!). I’ve never spoken to him, so I’m not sure how much of a “score” he gave the actors, or what that score was.

***SPOILERS AHEAD***

I started watching the version with BC as The Creature first. In the first 6 minutes, my movement analyst brain was freaking out! Once The Creature is out of “the womb”, he moved through Irmgard Bartenieff’s Patterns of Total Body Connectivity. Bartenieff gave names to Patterns she saw humans move through to achieve what is considered healthy, coordinated development. These don’t happen linearly, so much as overlapping and intertwined, and the ones that come before underpin the ones that come after. The PTBCs are:

  1. Breath

  2. Core-Distal

  3. Head-Tail

  4. Upper-Lower

  5. Body-Half

  6. Cross-Lateral

It is in Cross-Lateral that humans have access to the full 3-dimensionality of their bodies, and coordinated movement. Significantly, in terms of analysis, JLM’s Creature gets to Cross-Lateral movement about a full minute before BC’s Creature does. It is my guess that this is why I, and several of my friends “like” BC as The Creature more. His Creature spends more time discovering himself before moving out.

While he does explore all 6 PTBC’s in his opening scene, BC’s creature spends much of it, and much of the show, in Upper-Lower. This Pattern is where we “get work done” and builds our sense of “personal power”- an incredibly resonant movement choice for The Creature. Upper-Lower helps us push and pull, towards or away, in order to achieve a goal. There is a developing sense of intention. This is why I think BC’s Creature works so well- he is working to achieve a goal, and it is hard work! But, the movement is able to be upright and obviously human-like, without being fully what we identify as human. He only hits the full Cross-Laterality of his movement in moments of extreme (I’m thinking of his spiraling leap in the Scotland lab, in particular).

BC makes really clear choices in the Body category. JLM work in the category of Effort, particularly his choices as regard to Time. The Time element relates to our decision-making, and JLM embraces the Sudden side of the polarity, which totally works for a Creature acting only on impulse. There is no reflection, research, or weighing of options. This gives a sense of urgency to his Creature. The show with BC in The Creature role feels like a developing power struggle- the Doctor losing it as The Creature gains it. The show with JLM in The Creature role has a sense of urgency to it, when it all gets resolved feels more important. I believe this choice drives the scenes he’s in as well, picking up the pace of the entire show.

JLM demonstrates incredible flexibility and fluidity. Which doesn’t quite resonate for The Creature, for me. However, Frankenstein’s line about “balance” when he and The Creature interact after William’s death does better fit this version of The Creature. JLM’s Creature’s movement being more fully developed as Cross-Lateral, with fine motor skills, makes his Act 2 lines about “assimilation” ring even more true. And, therefore makes his following actions even more heinous.

If you want to continue to analyze: A place to really see these different choices (Upper-Lower v. Time Effort) at play, besides the opening, is the fight between The Creature and Frankenstein after Williams’s death: BC over-powers, JLM out-maneuvers.

So. Is one of them “better” than the other? Totally subjective and relates to your preferences. They each embody their character from what I would call a “different category of the system”, and each actor’s choice gives us a very different Creature and story. I’ve set out why I think each actor’s choice works, and I do have a preference! I’d love to hear your thoughts on these 2 versions of the characters and production. Please leave a comment!

Intimacy in a Time of Distance

Tonight should start the 2nd weekend of 2 shows for which I had the honor of creating the intimate moments. Island Song at Measure for Measure Theatre Company and To Fall in Love at Theatre Lab. Both are currently postponed, due to coronavirus limitations in Florida. 

But, I wanted to take this moment to talk about Intimacy Direction/Choreography, because this outbreak raises questions that may not be considered when it comes to staging or performing intimacy in shows. What happens if a performer is sick? Can we still tell the story effectively and well? 

Whenever I choreograph intimacy that includes a kiss, I always choreograph a Plan B. As one of my mentors, Tonia Sina reminds us, “Kissing is the most dangerous thing you can do onstage.” Unlike stage weapons, the soft tissues and bodily fluids are quite real. It’s my job as the Intimacy Choreographer to develop this, not the actors’. It’s my job as the Intimacy Choreographer to rehearse, to make sure the actors are confident in it, and that tech knows what to expect if we go to Plan B. Last week, in one of the shows, we had to employ our Plan B. It took 0 extra rehearsal time, because it had already been set. All it took was a check in with the actors and stage managers at call time. 

I also had a significant case of NOT having to employ plan B, because of how I staged the intimacy. (I hope Island Song reopens, and you get to see it, so I’m going to remain slightly vague about what happens.) Island Song has a number in which every member of the cast is involved in intimacy, in some way, except for 1. Most of them with another member of the cast, some of them alone, but they are all onstage, in various states of undress, involved in various acts of intimacy. What is significant about this number and it’s staging is that not only is the sex simulated, the kissing is too. All of it—  and there’s a lot. 

There exists currently only 1 review of the show, and I don’t know that it will ever be published. But NOTHING in that review makes me think the critic felt it was “fake”, “inorganic”, “inauthentic” or less than. 

I created that scene to look like a lot of people enjoying physical intimacy—  while keeping my actors safe. Part of my decision making was purely creative choice. I wanted the couples to all start the same, and then diverge into various acts. Part of my decision making was time related. I had a lot of people to choreograph, so having something repeatable cut down on my teaching time, giving me an efficient rehearsal. Part of my decision was safety- if I can make actors and the story look good, while keeping them safe, why wouldn’t I?! I don’t give them real swords so “the audience believes the story”. Staged correctly, I don’t need to give them real kisses either. 

Now, not every stage nor every story allows for that. This one did, and I took advantage of it. And on Thursday night last week, I was very, very glad. The actors were able to do their choreography confidently, with no changes. And they looked awesome. Again, I really hope Island Song is able to come back, and you can go see. Then you can tell me if you agree!

If you are a director or an actor that has never worked with an Intimacy Choreographer/Director before, I hope this gives you a different perspective. It’s not just about harassment or abuse. Directors, we really can make your job easier. Actors, we can help you stay healthy. We can help the people who want to do a good job confidently go out and do their jobs. 

When we’re all able to get back to making art together again, I hope you’ll think about hiring an Intimacy Choreographer/Director, even if it’s “just a kiss”. 

And, just in case you hadn’t heard, currently, Theatrical Intimacy Education is recommending that NO shows go forward with intimacy, in rehearsal or in performance. 


February News Stories About Intimacy Direction, Intimacy Choreography, and Intimacy Coordination

Medium. Setting the Stage for Sexual Abuse. By Randy Ginsburg. 27 February 2020.

Montana Kaimin. Intimacy coaching: Keeping actors safe behind the scenes. By Maghan Jones. 26 February 2020.

The Edmonton Journal (Canada). Special Director on Hand to Manage Scenes of Intimacy. 21 February 2020.

The Mail Tribune (Oregon). The ‘Sacred’ of OSF’s Intimacy Director. 17 February 2020.

Oregon Live. Oregon Shakespeare Hires First Full-time Intimacy Director ahead of 2020 Season. 17 February 2020.

CBS Sunday Morning How intimacy coordinators oversee romantic movie, TV scenes. . 9 February 2020.

The Pulse (an NPR Podcast). How Movies Move Us. The segment with Alan Yu includes an interview with Intimacy Director Colleen Hughes. 7 February 2020.

Intimacy Coordinators on Set in Israel. 6 February 2020.

The Lyric Stage (Boston) interviews their Intimacy Director to learn more about the work. 4 February 2020.

The Age (Melbourne, Australia). Rules of engagement: How actors and directors create intimacy on stage. By Louise Rugendyke. 1 February 2020.

Intimacy Direction / Intimacy Choreography Video Series

In my effort to update my website, I realized that this series of videos that I created last summer was living only on YouTube. So here are 8 videos about:

  • what is Intimacy Direction

  • why you might or might not hire an Intimacy Director

  • how I got into Intimacy Direction

  • what the scene is like in South Florida

  • and more.

    The first video in the series was produced by David Nail and Cliff Burgess. Enjoy!